The anniversary of my dad's death is tomorrow, and I've been thinking to myself: how, exactly, did I know him beyond his human circumstances? He had a spirit, just like the rest of us. What did I know of his more eternal identity, the one that just took residence in skin and bone for a while?
Thank you Sherman. Like every time you write of your father, it brings me to tears remembering all my father did for me. He died long before I was ready. Your and Arvel's song Father and Farther always brings tears to my eyes. Not painful tears, but tears of remembrance.
Thank you for two beautiful poems, Sherman. How I wish I could have been appreciative toward my parents as a teenager, particularly my Dad, who was great parent. He died way too young, when I was 17 and a selfish teenager, so the window of opportunity to thank him for all he did for me and my sister, closed pretty quickly.
Father’s often say ‘I love you’ without SAYING I love you. I think of my dad, walking to my first job to meet me with an umbrella on a stormy night. I wish I was the man then that I became much later. I wish that I thanked him and walked home with my arm around his shoulder. I wish that I had thanked him for his kindness. For his thoughtfulness. For teaching me in his quiet and soft way to be a kind and gentle man. It took me many years to become this man. The one who maybe finally deserves to be his son.
I first found his poetry when I started teaching a poetry class just after graduating college. Amazingly, none of my profs ever covered his work! I was fascinated by his use of language, particularly in his poem "The Whipping." I still feel both repulsed and drawn in through the language he uses in this piece. His portrayal of the abusive parent seeking satisfaction is alarmingly truthful and terrifying and perfectly rendered in the poem.
I love Hayden's poem (and yours too)! I have always loved an author's creation of new words that clearly communicate. Hayden's "blue-black cold" is one of my favorite created phrases.
The anniversary of my dad's death is tomorrow, and I've been thinking to myself: how, exactly, did I know him beyond his human circumstances? He had a spirit, just like the rest of us. What did I know of his more eternal identity, the one that just took residence in skin and bone for a while?
By his actions, of course.
Thanks for making that so clear.
Thank you for the beautiful response.
Beautiful.
Thank you, Rachel.
Hits me right in the heart...
Thank you, Shane.
Thank you for this. My parents were not the best but there are good things they did. Your poem makes me think of them
Thank you!
I love this substack!
Thank you, Kate.
That poem about your dad is lovely. Truly an act of love. Thank you
Thank you, Eileen.
Good Lord. This moves me.
Thank you, Peter.
This is lovely!
Thank you, Maria.
I am sorry to have burdened you, but it is an amazing work. Yes, "the terrible power"!
Feel free to recommend poems any time!
So beautiful on so many levels <3
Thank you, Pamela.
Thank you Sherman. Like every time you write of your father, it brings me to tears remembering all my father did for me. He died long before I was ready. Your and Arvel's song Father and Farther always brings tears to my eyes. Not painful tears, but tears of remembrance.
Thank you, Steve.
Isn’t it sad that we often see too late? A human condition poorly timed.
It is sad. And, wow, yeah, we humans have very poor timing.
Thank you for two beautiful poems, Sherman. How I wish I could have been appreciative toward my parents as a teenager, particularly my Dad, who was great parent. He died way too young, when I was 17 and a selfish teenager, so the window of opportunity to thank him for all he did for me and my sister, closed pretty quickly.
So painful to lose a parent at such a young age. I can't imagine.
Thanks for acknowledging that. The pain doesn't go away, but we continue on for some odd reason.
Father’s often say ‘I love you’ without SAYING I love you. I think of my dad, walking to my first job to meet me with an umbrella on a stormy night. I wish I was the man then that I became much later. I wish that I thanked him and walked home with my arm around his shoulder. I wish that I had thanked him for his kindness. For his thoughtfulness. For teaching me in his quiet and soft way to be a kind and gentle man. It took me many years to become this man. The one who maybe finally deserves to be his son.
That is a beautiful response. He brought an umbrella. That is such a beautiful image.
I first found his poetry when I started teaching a poetry class just after graduating college. Amazingly, none of my profs ever covered his work! I was fascinated by his use of language, particularly in his poem "The Whipping." I still feel both repulsed and drawn in through the language he uses in this piece. His portrayal of the abusive parent seeking satisfaction is alarmingly truthful and terrifying and perfectly rendered in the poem.
Oh, damn, I reread "The Whipping." Its terrible power! The "lifelong hidings." Damn, damn.
Oh, gosh, I'm gonna go find that poem.
I love Hayden's poem (and yours too)! I have always loved an author's creation of new words that clearly communicate. Hayden's "blue-black cold" is one of my favorite created phrases.
Thanks for sharing this.
Hayden was one of earliest poetic obsessions.