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Emily Henderson's avatar

I do... It seems every family has a memory keeper. The one who re-tells the stories and knows who's in the pictures and knows where the china set came from. My Aunt Monica was ours and now that she has dementia I am prepared to step into the role. I only wish I had asked her more questions while she could still answer them.

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Sharon's avatar

As long as I don't outlive my kids, all is good.

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T Benedict's avatar

Can’t have life without loss. Doesn’t mean we’re a piece of stone, shrugging off memories, indifferent to the vacuum in our hearts and minds when someone dear departs. It’s all a part of living, he sighed.

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Karen's avatar

Always sad to say goodbye to someone you know when they move on.

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Emmy's avatar

I like the clinic at our teaching hospital, so I have a new doctor every 18 months or so as the doctors go through their residency rotations. I don't have anything much wrong with me, so I'm a great candidate for them to practice on - but I do feel that sadness when they move on. I'm happy for their growth, and their next steps, and looking forward to 'bringing up' the next one, but I do miss them.

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Andrew Sniderman 🕷️'s avatar

Came for the Teriyaki but left with the ‘left and right hand of God’ My parents both died this year and that is a good thought

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Cathi Schafer's avatar

I’m the second oldest of six kids. I am caretaker of my older brother, who just turned 70. Three younger brothers died over the last five years; my youngest sibling is my sister who’s too busy for family.

It’s hard to change when you are a creature of habit in your comfort zone. I like to be in certain places at the time of day that I prefer the light in the building/dwelling/office. I like the al pastor tacos from Los Carnales; today will be the fish. If they closed down? I’d be heartbroken. I probably have OCD because I am resistant to changes in my familiar surroundings. The sameness is warm and fuzzy and comforting and I function well. Change is an anathema for me. I get it. At least you were able to begin closure! That’s a plus.😽

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Sarah's avatar

This hits. In July I lost my brother, and it's been tougher than the loss of our parents.

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Bruce Harris's avatar

Add line breaks and a little rhythm here and there and you've got a poem. And like the best poems, these are words that stick. Thanks for sharing.

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

Thanks! I like to include lines of poetry in fiction.

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Patricia Andrews (WA)'s avatar

It is our gift to remember so that others will remember after we are gone.

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AMALIA VILLALBA NUÑEZ's avatar

FELICES Y GRACIAS TERIYAKI TERIYAKI LOVE SONG SHERMAN ALEXIESHERMAN ALEXIA

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AMALIA VILLALBA NUÑEZ's avatar

FELICES Y GRACIAS CANCION

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AMALIA VILLALBA NUÑEZ's avatar

FELICES Y GRACIAS CANCION

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James Marshall's avatar

That was cheerful. How did you feel when Blockbuster shut?

At least you can afford to go out to eat regularly.

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

Are you opposed to melancholic writing? I think few writers would like their work to be described as "cheerful."

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Nan Bovingdon's avatar

Oh so true....my dentist retired, my doctor disappeared after allegations totally unknown by me, the next dentist I went to also retired!!! I've outlived all certified help....

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

My doctor and I are of the same age. He'll likely retire right when I start needing more care!

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Nan Bovingdon's avatar

so perhaps you and your doctor can share a care giver!!!

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

Hahahahaha.

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Patty Siedler's avatar

Sherman Alexie writes my feels again but so much more artistically than I think them. Thanks for the leg-up.

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Sherman Alexie's avatar

Thanks, Patty. It's me here, no need for the second person!

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